Thank you for sharing these pieces of heart and soul. While I read, I protested your sense of shame, but I get it. Surely, you weren't responsible for her mental health, like I wasn't for my mom's. Why do we adoptees carry this guilt and shame?
"I don’t want to be someone who can’t share themselves deeply or only shares the parts that seem safe to share. I don’t want to so deeply fear rejection that I just never connect." Yes, this.
Thank you for sharing these pieces of heart and soul. While I read, I protested your sense of shame, but I get it. Surely, you weren't responsible for her mental health, like I wasn't for my mom's. Why do we adoptees carry this guilt and shame?
"I don’t want to be someone who can’t share themselves deeply or only shares the parts that seem safe to share. I don’t want to so deeply fear rejection that I just never connect." Yes, this.
Thank you Mary Ellen! I wish we adoptees didn't carry the guilt and shame! We deserve better!